In the hustle and bustle of our daily lives, we often find ourselves buried under an avalanche of to-do lists. These lists, while seemingly helpful, can sometimes become the very a source of stress and worry they were designed to overcome. But what if there was a better way to approach our daily tasks? Enter the “to-be list.” A to-be list shifts the focus from what you need to do to who you want to be. Instead of listing tasks, identify the qualities and values you want to embody. This approach encourages growth whilst aligning with your actions, ambitions and aspirations.
Why Make the Switch?
Firstly, a to-be list emphasises personal development over task completion. It encourages you to cultivate qualities like patience, creativity, and resilience. By focusing on being rather than doing, you can alleviate the pressure of ticking off tasks. Moreover, a to-be list helps you stay true to your core values. It ensures that your daily actions reflect who you truly want to be, rather than just what you need to get done.
Where to start?
Funnily enough – not with a list.
Start by reflecting on your values. Take some time to think about the qualities and values that are important to you. What kind of person do you want to be? Or possibly what type of leader you want to be or become? Write down specific intentions that align with your values. For example, if you value kindness, your intention might be to be more kind or show compassion in your interactions. If you value being listened to, your intention might be to be more attentive and more present when in conversation with your colleagues.
As a minimum, at the very least, make your to-be list visible to you, as a private note, set as a repeated reminder, posted to your homescreen. The antidote of out-of-sight-out-of-mind. Or, if you are feeling a little braver, share your to-be list. Braver still, share your to-be list publicly. Posted it on the fridge door or on the mirror where you brush you teeth or as public statement of intent.
Next, incorporate daily practices that support your intentions – of course that requires you to be prompted or reminded (see above).
It is be no means an advisory, however I do an try and hold myself accountable.
To-be list
First draft
Be calm ✔
Be centred
Be present
Be hopeful
Be kind ✔
To-be List
Be calm ✔
Show proactive gratitude ✔✔
Be present
Be hopeful
Be kind ✔
Revisited list
Where next?
Your to-be list should be organic and flexible – your to-be list should evolve with you.
Conclusion
Switching from a to-do list to a to-be list has the potential to transform the way you approach to daily life. So, take a moment to reflect on who you want to be and start writing your own to-be list today.